Field Trips to Gay Bars

Sean Hayes has nothing on this man, a porn star who caused quite a stir here in St. Louis. God forbid a frank discussion about sex actually involve someone who has sex (or even gets paid to have it.)

This story in the New York Times underscores a conversation that I had last night. It seems almost-absurd that black women have taken to field trips to spot their down-low brothers, but shit.....the numbers warrant some sort of drastic action.

With almost 80% of the new cases of HIV infection among women being among Black women, something has to happen to get black men to own up to being gay, bisexual, or at the very minimum, put on a rubber.

I certainly understand the need for establishing a community, but I wonder when the black church takes such an anti-gay stance, the only result is that more black gay men hide their sexuality; become more conflicted about it; and act-out irresponsibly as internalized self-hatred works its vicious course. Even unintentionally, this bias and prejudice within the church only harms more folks than it serves.

If it takes field trips to gay bars for black women to understand that all gay boys aren't Jack McFarland....I say it's time to jump on the bus. I might even go along.